Secret Crush
- ME
- Mar 8
- 2 min read
Dear kaia: My name is Shy Luna and I have a crush on a guy. I am not sure what I should do about it. He is very sweet, but the only problem is that we aren't very close and I am scared to tell him. I really like him and think that he is very sweet. He is also very shy and isn't very outgoing. I really like him and need some help on how to approach him. SL
Hi Shy Luna!
You seem to be having some trouble figuring out what to do. Let me see how I can help.
From what I understand, you’re having trouble trying to confess to your crush. In my opinion, crushes are a good experience to have and can benefit you in many ways.
One of the bigger ways is motivation. If your crush is somewhere you wouldn’t want to go often, like school, they can motivate you to be happy and excited to go there so you can see them. It may even help boost your cognition and thinking skills.
From my experience, going to school is a lot better when I get to see my crush and talk to him!
From my experiences with crushes, I think there are different things you can do to try and confess to your crush. Given that he is shy, it’s probably unlikely for him to ask you out or approach you first. One thing I wouldn’t do is have someone else tell your crush for you. Depending on how they word it, it may come off really strange to the person being confessed to.
Instead, I think you should try it straight on. Maybe even try to get closer to them—ask if they want to walk around during breaks or sit with you during lunch. These are good ways to get closer to them and learn more about them. These activities may help you find ways to connect and get to know each other better, creating a bond between you two. This makes it more likely that, when you do decide to confess, the answer will be yes!
Lastly, be yourself; you don’t want to be with someone who will change you in a negative way.
Overall, make sure they like you for you, and tell them how you really feel. Expressing your true feelings might lift some weight off your shoulders, leaving you feeling a little better, even if you stop liking them or grow out of your feelings.